Vulnerability Between Men
February 23
February 23
Vulnerability Between Men
Most men have nowhere to say “I am struggling.”
Not the safe version. Not “rough day.” The real thing. My marriage is in trouble. I cannot stop drinking. I am so lonely I do not know what to do with myself. I think I am failing as a father.
Most men will go decades without saying those words out loud to another man. Not because they are strong. Because there is no room safe enough to be weak in.
A lodge becomes that room when one man goes first. Not through a program or a sharing circle, which would empty the building in under a minute. One man says something honest, and the room does not flinch. That is all it takes. The temperature changes for everyone.
No one goes first because everyone is waiting for permission. Someone has to stop waiting
True Brotherhood and the ability to communicate openly and honestly about the ups and downs of our lives is probably one of the greatest things that Freemasonry has to offer its members and prospects. If we are able to rise to the occasion of creating the space to support it. Great post Brother!
My father, who I didn’t know too well, passed away and left me a box of very old coins, newspaper articles, shirt pins, etc. All of which belongs in a museum or at least in better hands than mine.
I’ve been doing research into the bread crumbs he left me and I have so many questions about my ancestral family and their involvement in the Free Masons. Maybe this is why he was the way he was…?
I’m new to sub stack and what I have lead me here. Any help would be greatly appreciated. I need to figure out what to do with the priceless items I have.
Thanks in advance.